Someone can place so much emphasis on maintaining an outward image -- a public persona of strength and confidence -- while the true self inside is hurting and goes neglected. But rather than maintaining this image, it is far better to tend to the happiness of the true self, and to resume getting the help one needs. The tragedy was that Narcissus did not realize this. But it did not, and does not, have to be that way.
Stuart K. Hayashi is not a psychologist, and his thoughts here should not be construed as medical or clinical advice. If you worry that you or someone you love may suffer from BPD and/or body dysmorphia, please consult a licensed mental-health professional directly.
Monday, May 28, 2012
Narcissus Didn't Love Himself: The Echo
If you remember Ovid's rendition of the Greek myth, there was someone else who cared about Narcissus: Echo. And, like Echo, I repeat myself.
Someone can place so much emphasis on maintaining an outward image -- a public persona of strength and confidence -- while the true self inside is hurting and goes neglected. But rather than maintaining this image, it is far better to tend to the happiness of the true self, and to resume getting the help one needs. The tragedy was that Narcissus did not realize this. But it did not, and does not, have to be that way.
Someone can place so much emphasis on maintaining an outward image -- a public persona of strength and confidence -- while the true self inside is hurting and goes neglected. But rather than maintaining this image, it is far better to tend to the happiness of the true self, and to resume getting the help one needs. The tragedy was that Narcissus did not realize this. But it did not, and does not, have to be that way.
Thursday, May 24, 2012
Narcissus Didn't Love Himself
Narcissism -- in both the clinical and colloquial sense -- is commonly considered malignant self-love. But today it occurred to
me that the Narcissus of Greek myth doesn't really love himself; he
loves his reflection, which is merely a surface image. The image has visual traits derived from the real Narcissus, but it is far from encapsulating the
whole person.
Narcissus focuses on maintaining the image -- just as some people maintain their outward persona -- while the needs of his true self go neglected. Narcissus was therefore self-sacrificial; he sacrificed the life and fulfillment of the true self for a much lower priority, an image.
Narcissus focuses on maintaining the image -- just as some people maintain their outward persona -- while the needs of his true self go neglected. Narcissus was therefore self-sacrificial; he sacrificed the life and fulfillment of the true self for a much lower priority, an image.
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