Saturday, September 13, 2025

The Real Climb Needed Is the Climb Toward Mental Health

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Stuart K. Hayashi Unironic trigger warning: discusses child sexual abuse and someone’s suicidal ideation. After many years, this still ...
Friday, April 2, 2021

Notes From Mom in Holiday Cards Helping Me Regain Confidence in What I Had Been Doing

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Stuart K. Hayashi   Ever since my mother died on January 12 of this year, I have felt that so many of my aspirations and values have tur...
Sunday, March 14, 2021

Mom’s Holiday Cards Helping Me in the Second Hardest Time of My Life

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Stuart K. Hayashi I previously mentioned   that much more than I did, my parents placed a lot of emotional priority on the exchange o...
Wednesday, December 9, 2020

Mysterious Abandoned Twitter Account Sounds Like My Troubled Friend — So I Have This to Say

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Stuart K. Hayashi   Years ago at Hawaii Pacific University, I was close to someone who turned out to be dangerously mentally ill. By t...
Monday, November 23, 2020

Not Personal? Part of It Was About Me

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Stuart K. Hayashi   Many psychologists and self-help writers like to say that when someone treats you horribly — especially as it harms ...
Thursday, August 20, 2020

Another Year

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It’s another year. What I have said holds true. I will always care. The answer is not putting on a show for people to assure them that eve...
Thursday, August 3, 2017

Posing As Winston Smith from '1984' ≠ Recovery

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Remember what Winston Smith's job was in 1984  -- to cover up the past and try to rewrite accounts of what really happened. Pretending...
Wednesday, July 12, 2017

Violence Is Never 'Just a Private Matter'

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No act of violence is "just a private matter." Nor is any threat of violence "just a private matter," even a threat that...
Wednesday, June 14, 2017

Encouragement of Anorexia or Other Morbidity in Persons With Histories of Self-Harm Isn't Free Speech

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The act of tacitly encouraging a mentally-ill, self-harming person to continue self-harm does not count as free speech. The reason is that w...
Saturday, April 29, 2017

Again, You're Not Fooling Anyone

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“He who conceals his disease cannot expect to be cured.” --Ethiopian proverb When you go around bragging that you're some success, yo...
Monday, October 31, 2016

Western Ghost Stories Aren't About the Fear of Death; They Are About the Trauma and Regret of the Living

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I drew this on October 1, 2015. It is supposed to be Chernabog from the "Night on Bald Mountain" segment of Disney's "...
Monday, July 25, 2016

Why, If a Relative Raped You, It IS Everyone Else's Rightful Business to Know

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These are excerpts from a longer essay I wrote.  The whole essay can be found here . __________ Suppose you knew someone in childhood ...
Saturday, July 2, 2016

When We Must 'Interfere'

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You know that I am a laissez-faireist. But few people understand what this means.  I am only laissez faire in that if people are being peac...
Thursday, March 24, 2016

I've Been Close to Someone Who's Threatened Violence Publicly; Dangerous to Network With Her If She Isn't Getting Needed Help

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Trigger warning:  This blog post discusses issues pertaining to child abuse, violent threats, rape, incest, suicidal gestures, and mental il...