Monday, November 23, 2020

Not Personal? Part of It Was About Me

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Stuart K. Hayashi   Many psychologists and self-help writers like to say that when someone treats you horribly — especially as it harms ...
Thursday, August 20, 2020

Another Year

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It’s another year. What I have said holds true. I will always care. The answer is not putting on a show for people to assure them that eve...
Thursday, August 3, 2017

Posing As Winston Smith from '1984' ≠ Recovery

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Remember what Winston Smith's job was in 1984  -- to cover up the past and try to rewrite accounts of what really happened. Pretending...
Wednesday, July 12, 2017

Violence Is Never 'Just a Private Matter'

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No act of violence is "just a private matter." Nor is any threat of violence "just a private matter," even a threat that...
Wednesday, June 14, 2017

Encouragement of Anorexia or Other Morbidity in Persons With Histories of Self-Harm Isn't Free Speech

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The act of tacitly encouraging a mentally-ill, self-harming person to continue self-harm does not count as free speech. The reason is that w...
Saturday, April 29, 2017

Again, You're Not Fooling Anyone

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“He who conceals his disease cannot expect to be cured.” --Ethiopian proverb When you go around bragging that you're some success, yo...
Monday, October 31, 2016

Western Ghost Stories Aren't About the Fear of Death; They Are About the Trauma and Regret of the Living

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I drew this on October 1, 2015. It is supposed to be Chernabog from the "Night on Bald Mountain" segment of Disney's "...
Monday, July 25, 2016

Why, If a Relative Raped You, It IS Everyone Else's Rightful Business to Know

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These are excerpts from a longer essay I wrote.  The whole essay can be found here . __________ Suppose you knew someone in childhood ...
Saturday, July 2, 2016

When We Must 'Interfere'

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You know that I am a laissez-faireist. But few people understand what this means.  I am only laissez faire in that if people are being peac...
Thursday, March 24, 2016

I've Been Close to Someone Who's Threatened Violence Publicly; Dangerous to Network With Her If She Isn't Getting Needed Help

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Trigger warning:  This blog post discusses issues pertaining to child abuse, violent threats, rape, incest, suicidal gestures, and mental il...
Wednesday, February 24, 2016

A Right to Privacy Doesn't Extend to Violent Acts, Including Threats of Violence

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Any act of violence -- even in self-defense -- has ramifications for everyone in the community. If X  threatens violence against Y , there i...
Tuesday, August 5, 2014

There Is No Right to Use Government to Suppress the Truth

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"There is no 'right to be forgotten.'  But there is a 'right to  remember.'  History is important.  Speaking the truth ...
Tuesday, September 24, 2013

In the Long Run, You're Not Fooling Anyone

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If I tried to deceive you, it would not merely be a matter of me trying to outsmart you. It would also be a matter of me trying to outsmart ...
Sunday, September 1, 2013

Right and Wrong Ways to Achieve a Sense of 'Control'

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I have developed a simple theory on the cause of most dysfunctional human behavior. Perhaps it is too simple. But this is it: Everyone wan...
Saturday, July 6, 2013

If You Notice Someone Obsessed With Self-Disfigurement, Gently Speak Up About It (Here's How)

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Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) is a mental condition in which someone feels alienated and disturbed by his or her own natural physical ...
Saturday, June 8, 2013

Self-Acceptance and Having a Firm Sense of Identity

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From my friend Esha, I learned about this quotation : "Face it, kid:  unless you can be yourself, you won't sta...
Friday, March 1, 2013

March 1 Is Self-Harm Awareness Day

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Remember that March 1 is Self-Harm Awareness Day . You don't have to face this alone.  Receiving the help that you need, you ca...
Sunday, February 3, 2013

Alexi-- Alexi-- Alexithymia? -- Such a Mouthful! -- in BPD?

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The Journal of Personality Disorders published a study suggesting that persons with BPD can often experience a condition known as alexithym...
Sunday, December 23, 2012

My Criteria for Judging Whether a Pattern of Behavior Should Be Judged as Potentially Indicative of 'Mental Illness'

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I can understand that some people believe that to call a mental illness an "illness" is misleading, as they believe that there is ...
Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Patients With BPD Can Get Better ='-)

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A study in Denmark shows that patients with Borderline Personality Disorder can indeed get better with additional treatment.  :'-)
Thursday, October 18, 2012

More About 'Identity Disturbances'

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Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is not the same as BPD.  A person can have one condition but not the other.  However, the conditions...
Monday, October 8, 2012

Scary Black-and-White Pic ='(

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Actually, pics are not the most important thing.  What's important is the information.  I hope by now it is clear that pictures are less...
Sunday, August 19, 2012

I Will Always Care

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Wishing a happy birthday to someone I care about.  Whether this is understood or not, your lasting happiness is of paramount importance.  I ...
Saturday, August 4, 2012

If You Know Someone Who Exhibits Suicidal Gestures, Are You a Real Friend to That Person . . . or a Sycophant?

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  As I've blogged before , someone having suicidal ideation does not always lead to that person attempting suicide, but it remains...